Feel completely free to tell her that you don’t know whether your father is dating, have no interest in pushing him to date if he doesn’t feel like it, and will not be available to answer any further questions about the subject.
But my aunt keeps asking, and it’s very uncomfortable for me.
It’s especially frustrating because she first asked about it only a month after Mom died while we were at a wedding reception, and it wound up making me cry, but she still keeps asking.
I just really, really want to avoid listening to racist, transphobic comments!
A: Returning some comics you’ve borrowed by mail is not a universally understood sign of a friend breakup, unless you include “I’m sending these back through the post because I can’t stand the thought of seeing you in person” in your note.
I don’t want to spend any more time with her, but I still have her comics and I want to give them back. We live an hour and a half apart, so I think this is reasonable.