So here goes -- one single mother's set of red flags when it comes to dating divorced men, culled from a very long decade of post-marital dating experience. Do be careful of the divorced man who is only recently out of his marriage.
This is not to suggest that friendship between exes isn't a good thing.
It's great for them to get along but things have to change when another person enters the picture.
It's not uncommon for divorced men, especially if they think their ex is a less-than-adequate mother, to want you to come in and fill a "mommy hole" for his children.
Men may not consciously realize this, but most divorced men I work with will admit to wanting their new partner to be a bit like Mother Teresa and Mary Poppins combined.
Divorce is a type of death and requires a process of grief, even when one may have desperately wanted the divorce. Most men live with guilt post-divorce, even when a divorce is more than warranted. BTW, if he's separated versus divorced, consider that a red flag. If he has a hostile relationship with his ex, you can expect a lot more complications than what will already naturally exist when dating or living with a guy who has kids.