and it’s Being fun and helping others have fun is a way of keeping dates and potential relationship partners engaged and invested in the relationship.It’s a vital part of the chemistry that helps ensure that not only will she enjoy the first date but that she’ll be interested in coming back for a second… The worst dates date just drains the life out of everyone involved.Making you feel good triggers the instincts that tell us that these are people we should like and enforce that feeling with a shot of dopamine.
More than looks, more than money, more than whatever nebulous definition you want to give to “value” or “status”, the most attractive aspect of a man, that x-factor that nets him attention, attraction and dates is… Over the years as I was trying to make my transition from “dateless loser” to “ladies man”, I got to know a wide variety of folks who were good with women.
Some were blessed with every advantage – classic good looks, money and charm – while others had to work for their success.
Their secret was very simple: they were fun to hang around with. It gave them a notable, long-term advantage over the guys who were all surface and flash, the ones who only had a handful of tricks and routines to rely on and the ones who got by on social pressure and status games.
If you talked to them, then you were going to enjoy yourself. they all loved these guys within minutes of meeting them. It took me a while to appreciate just what they had but once I understood, it was like a new world opened up to me.
Fun people are interesting – they tend to have diverse interests that they enjoy and have stories to share.