Anyone who has dated long enough knows exactly what I’m talking about.
The problem is our minds trick us into believing there is some sort of payoff to this type of thinking.
By lying or ‘overstating’, they get to be with a better caliber of person, until their arses get turfed out. Sometimes we think we’re more interested than we are.
Sometimes it’s because we’re emotionally immature, but sometimes it’s because we’re human and we change our minds or something imperceptible or very obvious turns us off. You may be in it for one reason, but some are in it for a shag, or whatever.
You need more than physical and sexual attraction – you should be getting an initial sense of their values and whether they treat you with care, trust and respect, and of course match words with actions.
If you’re not getting to know them or you are, and are experiencing things that are at the very least proceed with caution signals or at their worst, full on abort mission signals, this is because you’ve already decided to commit, regardless.
You may feel that you have a lot in common – you might, you might not and you will never know this unless you put in the time and discover.