I do, however, firmly believe that there are amazing, understanding, empathetic people out there who will see you as the whole person you are.
As it is for everyone, I think it’s about finding the right person.
As I was headed to the restaurant in my carefully planned outfit, I thought about whether or not I should bring up my disease and my surgery.
But then I decided this – he had asked me out – the Jennie who does research and wants to be a psychologist and who bakes cupcakes and loves the color purple. That is certainly a big part of my life between dealing with the medical aspects and advocacy work that I love, but at the same time it does not define me, and I have plenty of other things to talk about.
This woman’s daughter is not completely comfortable with her ostomy, and she looked at me – her eyes squinted but slightly desperate – and asked if I’d had any experiences with boys or if I was nervous about it.
For me – and many of us with ostomies – the pouch is merely a physical reminder of a disease that affected me long before my surgery and will continue to do so.
While many young women would have you believe that dating in 2017 is a minefield, some have it much harder than most.