Divorce also no longer carries the stigma it once did, and in urban China the rate is rising fast.
Incapable of repelling sexual advances due to being “inhibited about their sexuality” and a “submissive nature in the bedroom”, Stephanie describes Chinese women as Shanghai’s renewable resource that keeps replenishing the carnal needs of its dating pool, “ensuring that most Western men here are never short on sex”.
If part of the problem is that Chinese women aren’t able to say “no”, the other half is that Chinese men aren’t able to ask the question.
Stephanie describes Chinese men as “effeminate” and “small-sized” people who don’t have the capability to have a relationship with a foreign woman.
“If anything, [foreign women are] considered too dominant, turning the majority of them off with our independent personalities and strong opinions,” she wrote. Stephanie writes that Chinese men are interested in “engaging us in one night stands or brief flings, but then cutting things off abruptly when it’s time for the relationship to move into serious territory.” Despite her condescending view of Chinese men, Stephanie hopes to have a relationship with a Chinese man in Shanghai, warning them to “watch out because here I come!
There is massive family and societal pressure to marry and have children, and for the modern Beijing inhabitant living otherwise a more relaxed and socially free life than in years past, this can mean huge family strife.