When I was in my twenties, I knew a beautiful and smart college educated woman who was madly in love with a guy who had no job, no education, and had engaged in more fights than genuine accomplishments.
We’ve addressed issues like why do women like jerks?
A free person is wise to recognize what is under his/her control and what is not, and has the ability to accept the first and extend the second one.
You may have heard that "If there is a will, then there must be a way".
Make that decision primarily for yourself because you can never really live anyone else's life." Enlightenment is man's emergence from his self-imposed immaturity.