‘She thought it was a phase rather than a fully fledged orientation, but soon realised I was serious and she respected my feelings.’Although Lewis concedes he has more options in terms of sexual partners, he rejects the suggestion that bisexuals are incapable of monogamy, as does Laura: ‘People tell me Lewis will get tired of women and want to explore men.‘I felt confused and scared and tried to overcompensate by flirting with boys more than I’d otherwise have done.
I didn’t want to make them feel uncomfortable.’‘She said it was starting to become trendy for young people to say they were bisexual and laughed,’ says Francesca. There was a part of her that thought it wasn’t true.
When I searched Twitter for "bisexuality" I found this: "Bisexuality is the ability to reach down someone's pants and be satisfied with whatever you find." I once defined it (less colorfully) on my blog, Magnetic Fire.
I wrote, "Bisexuality is being sexually attracted equally to both men and women." The response was swift and furious.
"Am I defined accurately as bisexual only if I have one ejaculation with a woman for every ejaculation I have with a man?
Once I aligned my sexual attraction, sexual behavior and my self-identity, the dissonance I had felt for much of my life disappeared.