According to the singles whom Allen has encountered, boomers generally play by far different dating rules than young, 20-something daters.
All her friends, she said, had fallen pregnant within months of trying.
She ate healthily, she went to the gym and she simply couldn’t understand what was wrong with her. Recipe for failure: Arguing reduces the chances of conceiving But on digging deeper, it became clear that this woman and her husband were caught in the trap many couples I see are in. She was on the wrong side of 35, and had left it, she told me with certainty, too late.
"It depends on how rapidly or slowly things progress." Joan Allen, a relationship expert, finds that baby boomers are far more likely to wait to have sex than younger daters.
"Especially among older people who went through the sexual revolution, with maturity they realize there are emotional consequences for getting involved in a sexual relationship," says Allen, author of Celebrating Single and Getting Love Right: From Stalemate to Soulmate.
While a dating partner may not welcome this news, it at least can minimize later disappointments.