I also ask detailed questions about each partner’s sexual activity both past and present.Fantasies are also explored as these can reveal what partners are “really” attracted to.
As an older, Italian woman the mother placed a high value on marriage and family.
Other people marry for reasons of age and reproduction such as those fighting their biological time clocks.
The initiator of an affair might be the mate who claims to have attraction but feels deprived by the other.
However, in my experience it’s usually the partner with little attraction that seems to find a lover in the world.
In some cases, a couple may be having regular sex—albeit obligatory and relatively unsatisfactory.