Men tell me it makes them feel good and needed to help a woman with her problems, but as soon as the paint is dry on the last room in the house the dream may well become a nightmare as he realizes Miss Wonderful is really a crazy train wreck - come on, you know it happens! You'll get it all for a very high price - including your bruised and damaged heart.
So DO NOT quickly move in, get married, make capital purchases for her, pay her bills, do more for her than change a light bulb or buy anything together including puppies, kittens and other items difficult to divide or leave. You can see by her expensive presentation that she is into the finest material goods and experiences money can buy. Don't be surprised if she texts 14 other guys while dating you, looking to see who will ante up the most.
If your guy bails on you the moment you need him most his take-you-or-leave-you behavior lets you know loud and clear you're not really that important to him.
Part of the perk of having a long-time beau is knowing that he'll be there to share in your joy and accomplishments, as well as be there for you during a time of crisis. Whether he's trying to keep you from "embarrassing yourself" or he thinks he knows what's best for you, controlling men will find ways to critique you and your life – often under the guise of wanting to help you.
The sort of things you typically want to do for the person you care about.
We say typically because we know all to well that some guys are anything but caring to the women in their lives.
)The way we see it, if you're not sure whether or not you're a guy's girlfriend, you probably aren't.