We have to engage with our environment; to unplug from our i Phones, look around us, smile and make eye contact with people." Tijmens, who also provides date coaching services, believes that career women, like Charlotte's example, find it especially challenging and must be more open minded.
"We are so used to making checklists at work, that we do the same for our love lives and sometimes that makes us forgo perfectly suitable partners," she explains.
And then there are the stalwart favourites, which nowadays seem steeped in nostalgia.
Newspaper 'lonely hearts' and now online personal ads on newspaper sites have, perhaps surprisingly, remained as popular as ever, with papers across the country reporting significant numbers placed every week.
After a bit of chatting, we found out we were in thernsame city!