Maynard said that as her and her peers grew up, many of them became "jaded" with their childhood values and consequently chose to make decisions contrary to those espoused by the purity culture."We were raised with the idea that says, 'Wait for God to bring you the one.' And 'Don't wait around, don't sleep around, and you'll kind-of get this reward,'" said Maynard."I think a lot of people who are dating in the Christian world, say late 20s, early 30s, they did 'the right thing.' They followed the system.
But while in college, Lindsey "gave her heart to Christ." There, for the first time, she became convicted that premarital sex is wrong.
But despite this realization, after Lindsey moved to New York, she did not abide by this new sexual ethic.
For Lindsey, her behavior was not simply a result of her conforming to the sexual values of her non-Christian peers.
Instead, she had friends from church with similar sexual ethics and even dated and became sexually involved with a man who was serving at the same church that she was."We all went to the church. We said we loved the Lord but we ignored the scriptures that said that fornication is a sin," said Lindsey.
There were phrases like 'Don't date unless you're ready to get married' or at the age where you can support yourself on your own.