They've had enough demands in their life including those put on them by ex-wives and families. Otherwise it's like false advertising, which is hard to keep up.
They're not looking for a repeat of what they just left. Don't try and pretend to be a certain way just to attract a Quality Man, when in reality, you are not that woman.
So, where do you start making a change for yourself?
It all comes down to the kind of person you want to meet.
In fact, you do yourself a disservice pretending to be who you think a man wants.